If you go home and she has already ordered food and whatnot, thank her for taking care of it (mlc'ers crave attention, validation and acknowledgment) and THEN, make tomorrow's dinner (maybe something that can be re-heated, like a nice lasagna or something, then let her know that dinner is taken care of for tomorrow night and any reheating instructions (said with all the importance of "I took out the trash"...i.e., as if no big deal). In fact, this might work for your Wednesdays to cook ahead on the weekends or Tuesday night. Remeber, this is for you and S first, showing her a 180 secondary.
Let her be silent and go about your life with S and all...there is going to be a lot of this in the days, months to come...the best thing you can do is roll with it. It's not all about you, and as time goes on, it will be less, and less, about you and mostly about her internal journey. Have you read the "Stages of MLC"? Though it isn't a sure fire exact fit template, it is an invaluable rough guide roadmap of things to expect so they don't throw you for a loop.
That's my 2.5 cents...
T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
