OTOH, That fact that she says she's in love with OM. That she is happy now and wants to continue this way for now. That she asks me to let her go and move on to make this easier for her. That she disagrees with me standing for our marriage. That she'd actually been lying for the 2 years I thought we were trying to work things out, by still being in touch with OM. All of this makes me wonder if I'm doing the right thing by even standing.
Hey Arsene, so sorry to hear you're going through this pain right now!! But please keep in mind that the above is what she felt THAT DAY. I hope Mandy doesn't mind this, but I think it would help you to read the first post in her thread:
I think what's pertinent to your sitch is the fact that her husband kept standing and she kept telling him she was done, that he needed to move on and quit standing because there was no chance for R. But then practically overnight she emerged from the fog and wanted to R, but unfortunately she discovered her H had listened to her and DID move on by then. So now she's trying to DB him back, she was the WAS and is now the LBS.
So do take your W's comments with a grain of salt. She may truly have felt that way that day, but she could very well do a 180 at any time.
