Yeah, me too. I wore mine for probably 10 years, but I gained weight slowly over that time and it got to the point that I couldn't easily remove it, so I quit wearing it. We tried to have it sized but it still didn't fit. I am not a jewelry person, I do a lot of home projects plus work on motorcycles and cars so I just don't wear a watch, rings or anything. W actually bought me a new ring a year or two ago, it was really nice but I told her I probably wouldn't wear it much so she should return it and get her money back. What a completely foolish move on my part. I just saw it as a ring, she saw it as something much more. Shame on me for being so utterly clueless about the message behind that gift. Anyway, W quit wearing her ring about a month after BD. I actually thought about putting mine on again, but after reading DB I realized it would be perceived as pressure, I would be calling attention to the fact that we want different things and that I don't agree with what she wants. I hope we get to the point some day that she wants to put hers back on, and when she does then we will go shopping for one for me and I WILL wear it.
Don't be too hard on yourself mate. It's amazing what we take for granted when all is "well". The thing is, though, we're not the only "baddies" here. Sure we didn't know how to love them the way they needed it but I'm pretty sure the same goes both ways. You didn't know her love language and she probably didn't know yours.
Whenever I look back I see things in our lives together which could have been done differently, from both ends. I don't think that changing anyone of them would have made much of a difference in what has happened. The only thing we can do now is make sure it doesn't happen again. Make sure we don't become complacent again and stop appreciating whet we've got. And frankly, that should start now even if we feel destitute. Mate, I hope I don't sound like I'm preaching. I think I'm actually trying to uplift my own spirit here.
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
