The giving "space" i think is working by sleeping separate rooms, do you guys think it's too soon or should I keep giving her that "space" and sleep in s3s room?
DO NOT move out of the MBR. Hold your ground! If she wants to sleep elsewhere then that's her decision and she can live with the ramifications of feeling like she's no longer part of the household and/or being uncomfortable in another bed or whatever. The MBR is the throne of the house and you need to remain on that throne regardless of whether W joins you or not. The way you should handle this is to offer W the opportunity to move back into the MBR, but act "as if" you don't care whether she does or not. If she wants to join you then that's fine, if she doesn't want to then that's OK too. No begging/ pleading/ negotiating. Don't even ask her if she wants to move back into the MBR, just say "you're welcome to sleep in my bed if you want" and leave it at that. As for ML, I wouldn't push it right away unless she is giving you some obvious hints that she's ready. If she moves into the MBR and you start trying to jump her bones right away it may drive her back out again. Take it slow, time is on your side.
Originally Posted By: GALbaby
As far as your W. You would know a women's physical needs are not the same as a man's (usually). It might be nice if you take it slow with some affection like a cuddle or caress and see where that leads rather than having too much expectation about the ML. If she's not ready you will know. Its important you don't take it personally. She may just need more tme. Back off again and keep doing what you have been doing.
Good advice! The 5 Love Languages goes into this, the way I sometimes put it is men have an on/ off switch and can just flip it and instantly be ready for sex, but women have a rheostat that needs to be turned up slowly. 5LL gives great advice on how to nurture a woman's needs to get her interested in ML.
