Thanks for the feedback lapoo. I don't want to get my hopes up that it'll open up communication, but I just want H to know that I can still be friendly and don't have ill will toward him.

That way if he does get let down by his OW in the future, he'll still know deep down that I've always been there for him and tried to support him as best I could.

Like some of the other posters, I'm trying to be the lighthouse that shines and maybe one day he'll notice it when he's coming out of his fog.

M36 XH34
M-5 T7
4/11 H confused
5/11 ILYB
6/11 OW discovered
7/11 I move out, OW over
5/12-OW2,done->new EA, but H wont file
9/12 H "best bf ever" to EA/OW3
3/13 H/OW break up
H files 4/13
D 6/18/13