My wife left me after 8 years, I had a nice evening planned and while she was getting really she came downstair and told me she did not want to go with me and that I should go with out her, this led to a talk about how we are different paths in life and she is not happy, I eventually responsed in anger You are never happy, then she left, and went to her mom apartment. She would not talk to me and only send my text messsage. After about two weeks she coame to a therapist with me and told me she did not want to be married, but she did not want a separation or a divorce. "What the?" it does not work that way. Our second session was awful, I felt like I was under attack, and reacted by telling her that she had a anxiety issue, after reading about how parent issues play a role in people life. her dad was abusive, and now he came backinto her life and I said she is taking the frustastion out on me. Well after that I did not contact her for two weeks, it was very hard, but I had support. Then when I call her she was surprised and asked me how I was doing and I asked her if she would come to a different therapis because I realized the lady we had seens was noit good. She came and after she hug the therapist, (which I wa told by a few people that I know who are therapist, that that is not a good sign for her). Anyway it was a good session I had crumble paper with all these thoughts and feeling wriiten out, ( You she I have been in theraoy of my own and It help pull alot out of me, she said she doesn't need therpay) I read them and she was surprised about how I felt. We went out to lunch and then had a date that weekend, I felt really connected to her,but she would not come home. she said she cannot go from 0 to 60. I told her about this book the sex stare marriage and I was reading it, and that we should read it together. ( Should I give her a copy?). After that date she said that there was still hope.
A week adn half later a second meeting, she did not talk to me for a week. I found out that i needed to go away. (you she I work away from home for 2 to 3 month at a time, she know this before we married) I was concern about leaving because things were starting to turn around, nut we discussed it any we need that money to pay the bills, her job could not support us. So I left and now that is were I am. I hae been email her and she has been responding but not lile we used it. So I have been sad. She told me that she did love me before I left but it seemed kinda half heart.
Guess I am just torn. I had flowers sent to work, because she was not feeling well and the respond," Hi,Wow! Thanks for the flowers. They are very pretty. Hope you are well."
WOW!(now every thing I read about "wow" has not good.)