Yea I hear what your saying about the euro. Scotland is still the pound though so even though Europe effects britian were still independent as far as currency goes. Saying that though my mortgage advisor has said once the euro states start to fall apart it will effect the British banks and getting lending or a mortgage will become impossible.
The way I see it is I want a base that's mine. Start to build again, find my feet. What I would pay back on a £100000 mortgage ($175000ish) would work out about the same as renting. Say £450 a month rent £420-£460 depending on the loan a month. I'd rather be spending cash on something that's mine rather than giving soneone else money. Also if I meet soneone else I don't have to sell my place rather rent it out and let soneone else pay my mortgage. Seems a no brainier to me.
I do take on board what your saying though and see your point.
Kevin.
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Yes I can understand owning a house...etc...but don't let it pressure you, you want to take it easy on yourself. One has to ask are we going to have an inflationary system or a deflationary system. If it is inflation well then you will have made the right choice by buying the house. However if the world is filled with too much debt then you will have deleveraging and thus deflation like the u.s had during the great depression; then you can pick up the same flat for half the price....just a thought though...
That's a great point you made. Presure, I need to give myself a chance as my friend tells me. It's not just my wife I've lost. It's the plans I had, the future I looked towards. My house, my dogs, my neighbours. Everything.
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Hi Kevin, I have to admit I agree with 7720 regarding the house. I understand that you wish to have your own place. But so much can happen if and when the divorce goes through that it seems to be too early to buy a house. Just imagine if you fall in love with another woman (yes, it may happen :-)) who lives far away and you find out that you would like to live closer to her. I'd rent a flat for the next few years until the dust has settled.
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Just been on the estate agents website and I see our matrimonial home is now up for sale.
Heartbreaking for me and very upsetting.
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Needing some guidance. I've set out 3 goals just wanted to run them by ya for advice.
Oh yea. My wife called 2 days ago but I didn't answer or responded. Was that a good move?
1/ to enjoy eachothets short moments together and share things that's happening in our lives. a-laugh- have fun and laugh. b-secrets-share things a couple would talk about. c-aims-speak about wants we both have.
2/ for her to suggest doing something together. a-dinner-either going out or get a take away and chat. b-activities-see a movie or play a sport. c-dogs-be invited by her to take our dogs a walk together.
3/ for her to call me first to see how am doing. a-text or phone-I need to not contact her too often.
These are the 3 short term goals I've set and also listed with them is the small outcomes I could view as a success.
Let me know what yous think. Especially you 25yearsmlc.
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Oh yea also after reading the LRT section I really didn't want to think that's where I was at but it's pretty clear that's how bad things are in her mind. Of course her screwing another guy doesn't help her "fog".
Thought I'd text her. Sent her a text simply acknowledging I seem the house is list on the estate agents website and the photos looked good and suggested maybe take a photo of the master bedroom as that really impressed us when we first seen the house.
Thought that was a good move. Show am not ignoring her, being supportive on her moving on (tryin to show am accepting it) but being friendly, open minded and supportive (just like I was always at the start of our relationship)
Am gonna take up archery also. Done a bit years ago with the scouts and its always attracted me with its grace and tradition so that's gonna be my new hobby. Might get into target shoot again I was always good with a rifle.
Guidance and major mistakes being pointed out are greatly welcomed.
Kevin
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That sounds great that you are doing hobbies and such...Have you given any thought to taking some hobbies where you might ahem...ahem bump into or brush by some ladies? Might help boost your confidence a little and who knows but do what you like maybe that is the last thing you need....i know I could use a little female companionship these days....did she respond to your text?
Hey, we've spoke since the text but she didn't exactly respond to it. Her phone got left at an event she was at so she never got the text but she called from her work phone a few days later. But it was to do with the dogs nothing exciting.
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