Ive lost control because I am waiting for her response but I dont mind going out on a limb.
whoops, I'm too late posting now. Accuray and Labug have good points and I too sense your hopes are already getting wacky. If and when you two get some counselling, you're going to have to set back and not shove your "new self" into her face. The other day you were so fixated on telling her what YOU want,
that you ignored her words to you and gave her the Yeah I understand (so now let me talk some more) type of "validation" when you could have simply waited to hear more.
Do more listening and waiting on her, then getting YOUR point across.
seriously, she's watching your actions so much more than she's hearing your words. And in truth, you are doing the same. No matter what she said, if she went up and kissed you passionately, you'd forget all the words she said.
Similarly, if you are BEHAVING like a calm confident loving man, who isn't rushing her with your needs, it'll matter a lot more than your paragraphs of "discussed changes".
make sense?
NOTE, No ONE talk or comment or gesture will RUIN IT ALL Rough.
And no ONE Day will fix it all.
As for losing control...if you mean over yourself or your life, take it back.
If you mean control over her, well, you never had control.
Learning to let go of what we cannot control is very freeing. It's a great DB lesson and I think it'll lengthen all our lives if we do it right.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
