Thanks TVS..its nice to hear your words. I think I'm doing the right thing. I agree. Its not up to my kids to tell me how to live my life. Everyone is hurting in this situation, but my kids are adults now and can make the choices they feel are best for them. I myself moved out of home at 17 because I didn't like the way my parents lived their life. Not that i'm encouraging that but I have said to them they have a choice. I have spent a lifetime looking after them and now I need to look after their dad. They just tell me to move on and find someone else (easy!!!!). They can't possibly understand all the implications that go with D.
I do feel somewhat torn, but I have to stick to what I believe is right. It was a sore point for H that I continued to put them first even as they got older. So its a 180 for me to show him I can and need to let them go, for their own good as well. Tough Love.
