I think I see the picnic!

[2chiquitos]

jks,
thanks for stopping by. I hope it goes well when you do finally talk to her. Sending you best wishes!

I sent him a text "I was hoping we could talk tonite about setting up a different arrangement. If that's ok with you."(walking on eggshells, ugh! it comes natural)

H responded "yeah." I went to an Al Anon mtg tonite and the topic was finding the humor in things. Interesting topic, right?

After we were almost done putting kids to bed, H started to say his goodbyes. Me:(dumbfounded look), "I thought we were gonna talk?" H: I was hoping we could talk about it tomorrow.

He went on to say how stressed he was about this conversation after I text him. Then (with some encouraging probing from moi) he said, "well how about I don't come on Tues and Thurs mornings since those are the days he doesn't go to school?"

Me: (God definitely found humor in this because I was thinking the exact same thing) "Yeah that sounds good."

Then he said how he appreciates his mornings with his kids more than other dads who do live with their kids. I HAD TO SAY THIS!!! "but H you don't live here..."

H: "I know..."

Me: "So how long do you want to continue with this new arrangement." (I'm thinking 1week then we remove the evening visits)

H: "let's wait and see how this goes."

Me: "H, D4 did great today getting himself ready. It made me realize how little help I need with him and how independent he is now."

H: "I know, but the morning are more for..."

Me: "you, I know."

All the while it was a light conversation. No hurtful or angry words or heavy tension or sarcastic undertones, etc. Very diplomatic. Nice... peaceful...

Thank GOD!! I will bring it up again tomorrow evening since I don't want him to take D4 to the gym. This will cut out the bedtime routine. Again, light...

Good nite everyone!