Denver, I agree with what you're saying, but in this case his W suggested going to see the joint counselor -- I took that to mean she was proposing taking a step to work on things. That's why I feel the Rvaiellle door is open. In amy case if she goes because she feels pressured, she still goes. I haven't heard of anyone coming out of that saying it made things worse -- at worst it just didn't get much better. If I were Rough I would take those odds all day long versus meeting with an MC. My informal survey of talking to people about MC suggests about a 90% failure rate.
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I agree with all of that. But I don't think that his W was suggesting that they go to MC because she wants to work things out. She was suggesting it as a means for the two of them to have a conversation about where they are going with their S. At least that's how I understood it.
I just feel that he's only going to get one shot at something like this and that, maybe, he'd be better waiting until he's made some more progress.
Like I said though, it could go either way.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
1 you can work that out later after she agrees to go 2 it makes it seem like you've done lots of research on it and that can be intimidating
Don't ambush her with it, just get her agree to go first, then take a short break, then come back and tackle all the logistics at once -- kids, travel, accommodations, etc. Don't shine a light on the beds thing keep it casual
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
One more point on this... Rough hasn't been doing this for very long. It just may be premature.
But you know Rough that I REALLY hope that she agrees to go... best case scenerio is that she exhibits some real interest in it as well.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
Well said guy, before I write her I can take the bed part out of the message. Denver, your right in terms of why I thing W wanted to go to the counselor.
