JKS,

I am glad your session today went well. It's good that your T asked you for a list of goals. That will help you both keep on track and focused during your sessions. Hopefully her approach is solution-based and action-oriented.

I am sorry that you feel trapped. Try to find a healthy outlet for your emotions. A lot of people have suggested writing a letter to your H, but NOT sending it. Since you are feeling that he is the one that you want to direct your thoughts and the emotions you keep inside, that might help.

Journal here often... even if you need to do so every couple of hrs. or so. Take advantage of the amazing friends you have here.

I find that good crying sessions sometimes help me. I do them when the kids are not around. Yes, I literally plan times when I let my emotions flow freely. I do it when I shower or when I am driving alone.

Try to get some exercise in as well. Even if it's just taking the kids to the park and playing with them. Or how about a quick-paced walk with the stroller when you take your daughter out? Anything, anything that will rise your heart-rate and get your heart pumping...

Finally, you know how to reach me - feel free to contact me anytime if talking is a better outlet for you.

IDK, these are just some suggestions. You need to find what will work for you and use that. And remember that time will continue helping you heal...

You are on the right track!!!

(((jks)))


Me & H: 44
D7, D6, S3
Together: 20y, M: 17y
EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10
EA becomes PA: Spring 2011
H filed for D: 09/06/12
D Negotiating began 2/15
OW seemingly gone on 3/15
Still negotiating D