Wife was a way for a week. Life was very stress free. I tend to find that being around her causes me a lot of stress (not just recently, through most of the marriage) as there are a lot of rules to be followed etc. I find her to be difficult at times. As someone pointed out once, the love bank allows you to borrow against it for the tougher times, but when that bank (tank?) is empty, even the little things are hard to take.
Well she came back from her trip really missing me and upset about our situation. Lots of need for my attention and holding on to me (hugs and holding hands have never been an issue..its that the physical never gets beyond G-rated). She really doesn't want to lose me and i told her that she has the power to bring me back. Her response was the I had stated that I was not willing to put in the effort. Yes. I'm not willing to sacrifice any more of myself and put in a lot of effort in hopes that she will change her behaviour at all. I didnt' say any of this, just pulled up some reserverves from somewhere to hold on to her and be there for her. But...its all on her head. Ugh..i really don't want to have any more discussions but seems i need to again tell her that it is her actions that will make the difference.
