Also like most mlcers they don't want to be labeled the bad guy. Can't he still be a loving a supportative great friend even as he leaves the family?
I work hard to juggle validing him and his feelings but also subtley saying it's not okay what you are doing to your kids. I actually hope that surrogates like friends and family tell him this is not okay.
Thank him for the card but it's no more special then a card from a friend. It doesn't need to signify anything or start a conversation.
Focus on yourself and the kids
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13
Thanks BK. I did thank him for the card. I left it at that.
He is back to withdrawn and sullen today. I think he had a trying day at work. I came home from taking S to his counseling appointment and H was in "his chair" working on some work documents. I made dinner for the kids and OW called. I know it was her because H starts talking in hushed tones and leaves the room. He wasnt gone long. I try not to let it bother me. I just concentrate on the kids and focus on them.
One day at a time, right? Sometimes one moment at a time.
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
