That took courage, now40. Just don't go back to being manipulated by her. Yeah, she cuddled, and that was nice, but that's all it was. I think not going quickly for the D may be good. It gives her a chance, if she chooses to take it, to do her own DBing. But let's get real. A leopard (usually) can't change its spots. You may want to take steps to assure that your interests are protected in case she files for a D first.
