My W has told me that there were things that I did, like invite she and SS to a movie, that she felt pressure from. She said that there were times during our S when we were hanging out and spending time together where she would feel like she had to say yes to something that I would invite her to, when in reality, she was feeling more like she needed space from me. She can see now that I wasn't trying to pressure her at all... it was merely where she was emotionally that made her perceive it as such.
I meant to stress above that something as minor and innocent as me inviting my W to a movie was perceived as pressure at times. There was no way that I could have asked her to go to a marital retreat. But, once she began to feel more comfortable, and was able to get there on her own, she brought it to the table. I didn't have to. All I had to say was, 'honey, if you feel that your are in a place where you are comfortable going, then I am all for it.'
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
