I can only echo everyone else's feelings here. Kudos for seeing a therapist. And like bug says, don't feel afraid to change if things don't work. I saw a therapist last year and at first it was helpful, but I later realized she was just listening and validating me and I was not making a lot of progress. She was nice and meant well, but was just not what I needed at the time. I needed someone to really challenge me and help me grow and not just agree with all I would say.
I am glad that despite your pain, you are finding ways to focus on your kids and enjoying your time with them. That shows a lot of strength within you, so be proud of yourself for it.
As for the dating issue, how about if you start dating yourself for a change? Get to really know yourself, who you really are, what you are about, what you want from your life. Listen to your heart and mind and respond with love and compassion.
Then do nice things for yourself and do fun things. Treat yourself like the most important person around and start doing new and interesting activities. Once you are comfortable with yourself and you learn to love yourself unconditionally and find happiness within yourself, you might want to look around and decide what goes next.
(((((jks)))))
Me & H: 44 D7, D6, S3 Together: 20y, M: 17y EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10 EA becomes PA: Spring 2011 H filed for D: 09/06/12 D Negotiating began 2/15 OW seemingly gone on 3/15 Still negotiating D
