I think if my kids didn't see me for a few days a week my W may have a case for abandonment, which over here can affect your access rights.
My W may be a lot of things, but she wouldn't do that to me, plus she would want the kids out of her hair a few nights a week so she can have her own life too.
This is one of those times where you are going to have to take some short term pain for long term gain.
Your lawyer advises against it. Your hedging that your wife is going to be fair with you....
Lots of IF's here Bill.
2 years ago if I said to you that your wife will have an affair on you and ask for divorce. You would say.
My wife would not do such a thing. That is not the person she is.
But she became that person.
I would look at getting a day or two away tops. Just for a break.
Then back home until this is legally worked out and binding.
Like you said. She can go stay with OM as well for a day or two.
So that is now 3 days your in the house together instead of 7.
Talk with your lawyer and come up with a plan that does not offer the chance of her playing the abandonment card on you.
Divorce is Breakdownbill vs. Mrs. Breakdownbill
If you move out you know what can happen. So you have to be prepared for the worse.
This is not the time to be basing any further life altering events on some hopes and maybe's
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