Quote: She has lost trust in me because I have broken my promise to be with her forever and not to leave.
I have to tell you this story. When the LD/HD disparity became so hard for me to handle, I sought all kinds of solutions. I put forth all kinds of arguments to my wife about why this was hurting our marriage. Side note: we're both lawyers. I even went so far as to dig out the printed copy of our wedding vows and used those! I told her, "you promised, in front of God and many witnesses, to honor me with your body. What do you think that meant?" Like a typical lawyer, she answered that it meant that she would not go outside of the marriage for sex. I pointed out the passage that said where she had promised to be true, arguing that this latter passage covers that, so the former passage must be something different, namely, that she should honor me, and I should honor her, by sharing each others' bodies in a respectful way. (e.g. by doin' the deed!) Well, it didn't make any difference. Damn lawyers can argue their way out of hell if they put their minds to it.
So where was I going with this? Oh, yeah. Didn't she break her promise by "leaving" you physically and emotionally? That's where I was going. But Corrie's comments about deciding where you and her want to be are the heart of the matter. Get past the guilt, the blame, the drama of who broke whose trust, and decided whether you want to be married to her or not. Be strong.
