Her previous (and only) therapist said she had OCD tendencies an focuses on the negatives constantly, to the point of them becoming debilitating. They said she may need medicine, but she's strongly against taking any and believes things can be fixed with the mind.
Oh boy, that puts you in a tough spot. It sounds like she needs treatment. Of course you can't tell her that because she'll think you're just making excuses for your own "bad" behavior (bad in her interpretation of things). You could approach someone else to talk to her (her mother or a friend) but unfortunately if they disclose that you asked them to talk to her that'll be interpreted as you making excuses AND gathering people against her. The best you can do for now is detach, give her time and space and hope that she comes to the realization that she needs med's to get through this.
This is part of the problem... as I start to think about what I could have done differently this time, I come up empty. I need to spend more time dwelling on this and reviewing my notes from last time...
This time she even went as far as to tell me that I've been perfect lately. I've been a great husband and a great father. I wasn't given any indication of what I could change.
M34 W35 S5 S2 T10 M6 on/off over the years including her A Recently- Nov 2015 bomb Nov 2015-Feb 2016 Reconciling Feb bomb March-April Reconciling May - bomb Mid-May I tell her I'm done
