You have the chance to walk away, to seek to make yourself happy. There are a bizzillion of us guys in this boat, and once you have kids, then the choice to make ourselves happy is REALLY hard, since it will impact lots of lives. You have a tough decision to make. You proably want to exhust all your treatment options for "CURING" your LD wife, and then you have to decide if YOU want to be happy. I am in the same boat as you, and I know that intimacy and sex are the foundation of a great marriage. So you probably have a decision to make. The way I see it, if you ask your wife to help find solutions to this COUPLE problem, and she does not respond positively, then she is more interested in her then in both of you, and you will have to adjust your marital status accordingly. I find that fixing the problem is only secondary, it't the path to finding a solution that is even MORE important to the marriage. This is what will tell you if your spouse is really into staying a couple.
Good luck, it is a VERY long road ahead of all of us HD spouses.
