Well yesterday H asked about dinner on my birthday - which is the day after tomorrow. Acting "as if" I went along with the plans.

I don't understand this at all. He treats me just the same and sometimes I wonder if I imagined "the bomb". But then I remember all the email exchanges with the ow. And now I notice how very one sided attention and affection are for us. (Although in the interest of detachment I have STOPPED reaching for him, telling him I love him etc) So I guess the bomb did occur...

I don't interpret the dinner etc to "mean" anything. I just can't fathom continuing to live "as usual" with someone I "don't love" and "don't want a future with" so its hard to wrap my head around his actions. And not being able to discuss it with him makes it even more bewildering.

Me 46 H 56
M 22 yrs
S22, D20, Twin Ss18

You teach people how to treat you by what you allow.
What you stop.
And what you reinforce.
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A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.