So today i finally asked H about Winter break. I asked him from a financial point of view. Made it clear i was speaking for me and the kids..i did not want him to think i was overtly or covertly trying to get him to join us, commit or even consider that I was hoping he might join us. No pressure, no expectations, He knows where we will be and if he wants to join I am sure he does not need an invite from me.
Do you think thats ok? Or should I have said something like 'i don't know what you are thinking of doing, but of course join us if you want' ??
Sometimes i feel i pull away too much and stop shooing any sign of keeping the road home smooth and paved....
You did well communicating your plans to your H. There is no need to go beyond that right now. Keep the road home smooth, but don't be his navigator.
You aren't "shooing" him away. It isn't about him. It is about living your life with your children. Live it up Busting.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
