Just my hardline opinion - you need to stop the voluntary maintenance ASAP. Let her start to realize what life is going to be like without the good man jb around as her safety net.
Me: 43 W: 37 Together: 18 M: 15 D: 8 yrs old ILYBNILWY: March 2011 She Filed for D: August 2011 She moved out: Sept 1, 2011 Reconciled: May 2012 Divorce Case dropped: July 2012
If you really want to play hardball, ask if that can be applied as credit towards what you may eventually be ordered to pay.
I wasn't sure if Ohio had spousal support and/or alimony.
Texas only grants support, and only until the divorce is final.
Me: 43 W: 37 Together: 18 M: 15 D: 8 yrs old ILYBNILWY: March 2011 She Filed for D: August 2011 She moved out: Sept 1, 2011 Reconciled: May 2012 Divorce Case dropped: July 2012
Sorry man. I hate that it's gotten this far for you. There's still hope though, even this late in the process.
Hang in there!!
Me: 43 W: 37 Together: 18 M: 15 D: 8 yrs old ILYBNILWY: March 2011 She Filed for D: August 2011 She moved out: Sept 1, 2011 Reconciled: May 2012 Divorce Case dropped: July 2012
There's still hope though, even this late in the process.
You would know, wouldn't you?
I am just looking at this as a step in the process. It's a necessary step at this point. I'm not looking too far down the road and I haven't resigned hope yet. However, I do know I will be fine either way.
Quick update: I met with my L today. She was of the opinion my W and her L were asking for more than the court would allow in a D. Anyway, we're going to ask for some more data from my W and counter back in a couple weeks.
I hate this stuff, but I'm afraid it's a necessary evil. I have to take of myself and my S.
Again, to me it's just another step, but who knows what the future holds? I'll just continue this momentum with my new life I've built since this whole mess started.
I've been away for awhile now. There hasn't been too much significantly new with one potential exception - I post separately on that one. It seems like I see my W about once or twice a week. I am still waiting to hear from my L after our last meeting.
I continue to GAL. I'm continuing to exercise, and completed a 64 mile ride last week. I am still involved in my 3 groups at church. In addition, I've been asked to help out with the Student Ministries. I'm still riding with the local cycle club and still running on a limited basis. I am planning to join the running group at my church for a 5K in a couple weeks. GAL'ing has pretty much become routine over the last year and half.
I'll have my S this coming weekend, and we have a festival, a community bonfire, church, watching the Bengals and Browns at church, and a pig roast lined up for the weekend.
