Two interactions, a slow start to communicating with W again. Communicating in a new way, a better way. laugh Thanks a lot 25! “She’ll feel listened to, that often means she’ll feel loved.” Good stuff. I’ve been practicing validating a lot. After I spoke with W, you wrote a post that was very hard for me to digest. I was p!ssed at you 25 but I am sooooo glad you hit me with a 2x4. I can’t wait to do more validating. I meet with my IC tomorrow which should be good. I am a “nice guy” and I've come to learn it’s EXTREMLY problematic so were going to address some of that stuff.

I see why Denver said to tread carefully. Those rays of sunshine give us hope but I have to be careful with that hope. No expectations, I don’t want to get my hopes up, I just can’t or I will be setting myself up for devastation! It sure doesn't take much for us to get our hopes up though.

Here’s a list of some of the things I need to tackle. I don’t think I will tackle them with full speed thought, I am still unwinding from the last couple days, time for me to take a breather for just a bit.

Work on my conflict avoidance issues.
Work on setting boundaries.
Tread carefully with W, slowly, deliberate and sincere.
Remember to validate.
Work on financial stability.
Build my self-confidence.
Work on my needs.

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Freshman class of 2012
Me(M):38
W:43
Together: 15 Married: 11
D:5
S:8
W wanted separation 5/5/12
Stopped living together 5/5/12

“Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude”.
Thomas Jefferson