Piecing - Round 1

[Denver_2010]

Denver, thanks for keeping us updated on your sitch, so many people disappear once they're into piecing which is unfortunate because those of us still DB'ing take a lot of inspiration from stories like yours!

We haven't seemed to have been able to find the time to talk the past couple of weeks.

Our MC gave us an exercise that seemed silly at first, but it actually worked pretty well. She told us to take a few minutes, find a quiet place away from the kids and ask each other 3 questions- what's the best thing that happened to you today/ what's the worst thing that happened to you today/ is there anything I can do for you right now. We're not doing it anymore since we're S, but before S we did give it a try and both of us felt it helped improve communication quite a bit and helped us connect. Sometimes we'd just spend maybe 2 minutes on it and other times 15 minutes, we'd just go with whatever felt right. If and when we start piecing this is something I definitely want to incorporate again into our daily routine. One of our issues is what you described, we just always found ourselves "too busy" to communicate and connect with each other. I have no doubt it was a major contributing factor to our marital problems.

Thanks AS. I think that that sounds like a great exercise. I might suggest it to my W when we talk next.

I think that being too busy is a huge reason that a lot of M's breakdown. Something I did not see before, but something that I am VERY cognizant of now.