take a breath. Then do it again. Learn to STFU and listen to her when she speaks. Keep the money issues separate from the marital issues.
Focus on a few traits you want to work on, for YOU. And work on them. Improve yourself b/c you want to become the best man YOU can become.
Spend MORE time with the kids. Be the best dad you can be. Not just b/c it's an emotional turn on for mothers, but b/c they need you now more than ever.
And stop engaging in the same unhealthy dynamic. WIthout NEW TOOLS
you will repeat the same unhealth patterns and behaviors and that just confirms in her mind, that leaving is the right choice to make. You need to undermine that belief of hers.
Only NEW different behaviors on your end, will achieve that.
So get some counselling and talk to a DB coach asap. And read the book again.
What is your main goal? Can you say that? If it's reconciliation, then figure out what that would look like at the start.
Meaning, would it be a few nice chats, or a HUGE HUG and time in bed?
my guess is that a few chats without conflict would be the start of a better r, and a chance at reconciling...so work on trying to get THAT to happen.
And build on it.
but yes you need tools. Any chance for attending Retrovaille? Do look at it.
It'll help you co-parent at the very least.
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