SS, I've had a hard time accepting that he's cake eating but I see it now so clearly. He continued to lie to maintain both relationships and if there's one thing I hate, is feeling like a doormat.
So I'm much stronger now and want the changes but he has been so difficult about it. Twice in the past month I've brought it up and both times it's as if I've been ignored.
I know that when we do have this conversation again i will need to be more clear with him. My sponsor said not to sound needy (don't say 'you're hurting me'). Keep it simple. And talk when I'm not an emotional mess. When I'm more grounded. My IC said don't bring up examples to your argument. It's not an essay. I tend to do that and H will stonewall.
The times that I've talked to him I didn't plan the conversation since it creates a lot of anxiety for me. Instead I just went with it. See how this conversation goes.
M 42 H 39 T10 (-2yrs separation) S8 D5 DD 7/30/11 (EA&PA) Reconciled 6/2013 Separation in works 1/2017
