roughenough, I'll take your questions one at a time. Thanks for your post.

Originally Posted By: roughenough
Are you pursing?
She dropped the bomb last night. I haven't reached out for her since. I've just given her space and responded only when she reaches for me.

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Are you trying to “fix” her problems?
I was trying to help before she dropped the bomb. Now I'm giving her space.

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Do you think she’s having an affair?
I honestly don't think she is. I've been watching for all the normal signs and don't see them.

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Do you remember how to detach and validate?
I immediately started working on detaching. I started while she was still talking... I immediately remembered that I'M in control of my emotions, not her. I can choose to be happy, as hard as that may be.
Can you elaborate on "validate"? What is this process?

M34 W35
S5 S2
T10 M6
on/off over the years including her A
Recently-
Nov 2015 bomb
Nov 2015-Feb 2016 Reconciling
Feb bomb
March-April Reconciling
May - bomb
Mid-May I tell her I'm done