I struggle with the same, Some. I am noticing some things in my wife that I think clearly need a medial look and she is adamant about not going to a doctor at this point which is irresponsible. As with the EA and the WAS/MLC issues I am trying to understand I know I cannot control this.

It doesn't change how I GAL and what I do to improve myself except to see what course I would head if I weren't trying to remain focused on my health, but I don need to see her deteriorate as well.

Even our MC has suggested she visit a doctor to have a few of the symptoms looked at -- which probably did more harm as she is still against anyone analyzing her at the moment.

What a tough road this is.

M:44
W:41
M: 12 yrs
W's EA began 3/12
Somewhere between WAW and MLC
Still in same house