I don't really understand what your going through. I don't know that much about you or your H or history. It's nice to talk to you. I don't live in the USA, so it would be expensive to call although I would like to.
I don't know how far I'm getting with this DBing. It seems at the moment the only way to stop this affair is to pack up and leave (I'm trying not to listen to my feelings). My H is so attached to the OW that I don't see either of them calling it quits. I feel I could easily go on with or without my H. Except we have the children. I understand that I unintentionally complained and critized, didn't know how to treat or react to men and loved conditionally in the past. I've put a change to all that.
I need to get a life. See if that works to stop the affair. I'm hoping one day that my H will trust me with his telephone and email, like he used to before the affair.
