I know how you feel. My H is so up and down. I told him I never wanted to speak to him again and he called every day and then I was nice to him and he hasn't called in days and is actually working in the same state as OW but claims he is not going to see her again, yet I know he will. It's so frustrating to deal with the lying all the time. I am really just working on myself, I guess that's easier with not having any kids. I have been going out alot lately. I love my husband with all my heart but it is really nice to have a random stranger tell you that you look hot!! I am dying for affection and to be loved. Is that sad? Why is it that we can love our H so much and they don't want us. I think letting go is a good thing. I know how hard it is but just go out and have fun. Don't have any expectations of anything. I think what you did was great. I just had a phone consult with a DB Coach and she said don't bring up the OW, if you talk to him just pretend like she is not in the picture. If you don't bring it up maybe it won't be such a big deal and he will get bored. They always want what they can't have. Make yourself unavailabe, which I know is hard. I always would answer the phone and then we would talk and it would hurt me even more. I would be happy to email you directly or call you if you want to talk. Believe me I know how painful this is but just keep in mind what your goal is and stick to that. Good luck and please keep in touch.
