To summarize as briefly as possible, my wife gave me the ILYBNILWY story about a year ago. It took some work, but I thought we got our marriage back on track. Fast forward about a year:
I felt like something was off the last couple weeks. Her communication seemed brief, and the use of pet names seemed to stop. However, I kind of brushed it off because she woke me up Saturday morning with a bunch of kisses. She snuggled up to me Sunday night as we watched TV. She responded positively when I cuddled her in bed. She mentioned that we need to spice up our sex life and initiated sex.
About two weeks ago my wife told me she feels trapped in all aspects of her life. She hates her job, she hates where we live, she hates the commute, and she's frustrated with life. I tried to encourage her to see a therapist and also asked what I could do to help her find a new job, etc.
Last night she told me that she's tired of our cycle. She threatens to leave, somehow we make up, and then things are good for a while. Then we repeat. We've been through this at least 5 times through our relationship (5 years dating, almost 3 years married). She doesn't want to do this anymore.
She again said that she's stuck. She doesn't have a plan, and she doesn't know what to do. She feels stuck in the house, her job, her marriage, etc. We have an 18month old son, so that makes this even more complicated. She said that she's made a big mistake and that this cycle should have been stopped a long time ago.
I didn't say much during the conversation. I listened. She probed me to say something, but I let her know that I was listening and thinking before I say anything. She eventually said that she needed to talk to someone or she was going to puke. She left and stayed at a friend's house. She was home in time to help get our son ready for daycare. She asked if I still wanted to drive her to work (we carpool). I said that was fine and remained outwardly positive despite how difficult it was.
I don't know if I have the strength to do this again. I'm also tired of the cycle. But I feel like I made a commitment to her and to our family. I don't know what to do. Try to DB again, or cut it loose. I'm terrified of the financial and personal implications of a divorce. I don't have a lot of close friends and have always been an introvert so making friends is hard. What to do....
M34 W35 S5 S2 T10 M6 on/off over the years including her A Recently- Nov 2015 bomb Nov 2015-Feb 2016 Reconciling Feb bomb March-April Reconciling May - bomb Mid-May I tell her I'm done
