Again, its important for you to read DB and really understand it. DB means to do what works and right now you've been going all over the place.
^^^^ THIS! Jzoom, you really have been all over the place. You're trying something different each day, you're not giving anything a chance to work. You tinker with DB'ing here and there, but you're not consistent and you're not giving it time to work. You also keep mixing in actions that are contrary to DB. You've got to slow down!! Take a deep breath and take stock of your sitch. First, really think about whether you want to save this R. If you do, then don't do anything until you read DR again. This time, implement the steps outlined in DR. Write down your issues and how to do 180's on them. Write down the baby steps that will indicate progress in the R. Be consistent in your actions!! Copy the 34 DB 180 tips to your computer and read them every day (if not several times a day) to remind yourself what to do and not do. Stick with it! Don't expect an immediate turnaround. Have patience and give it time to work. Do not give her ultimatums, do not pressure her with R talks, do not argue with her. Give her space as much as you can given your living arrangement and give her time. Slow your roll
