Well, in reading through your whole sitch it sounds like things having been going pretty well as far as patching it back together. I agree that your W should cut off communications with OM, but this sounds more like a minor setback than a deal killer to me. I would suggest sitting down with your MC and enlisting their help in setting boundaries and coming up with an accountability plan (such as W allowing you full access to her phone). Talk about what the ramifications are if W doesn't honor the boundaries, she needs to know how serious it is. The bottom line is your W is still missing some kind of emotional connection in the M and seeking it elsewhere, so you need to figure out how to give her that within the M. Have you read the 5 Love Languages? If not then check it out, it's a quick read and gives some great tools to determine what your W's love language is and how to fill her love tank. It'll also teach you a lot about yourself.
