Thank you for your post. You are right and practical and right. Its a very uncontrolled emotion and failure of logic to apply my trust issues with H to anyone else...male or female for that matter.
When i really think about it, I still do trust people that have stayed around me, male and female...but i am still a lot more closed off than i used to be.
What about direct trust issues with H though? Remember when you said to do things for the right reasons. Not because I want to provoke a reaction out of him, or hurt him, etc. When H is nice, which is becoming more consistent when we speak (although we don't speak often), i get freaked out. I immediately, 'what does he want from me'. So i close up. To protect myself. How is that being genuine, when i am afraid to be genuine to who I am and want to be?
And j3b, i do not think women on this board have any issues of trust when it come to your wisdom, support and advice :-)
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
