He didn't exactly "sit down to dinner" - he started at the counter and I asked him to join us. He said no, but then a minute later he sat down and finished his dinner at the table. Woo hoo!
I didn't say anything to him when he sat. Didn't want to "scare him away". My stepmother said I should tell him it's nice to have him at the table but I feel like that's pursuing. It feels so "un DB" to jump on that.
As usual, he left me to clean up the dishes and he went upstairs with the boys. I went to walk the dogs and when I got back he was going to sleep. I told him thanks for helping with the boys when he was not feeling well. I figured I could say this genuinely without being too pushy. He sort of paused to let me give him a little hug before bed.
He said, "Thanks for taking care of everything else." Wow, he's noticed! I've been working my butt off with the boys and the financial stuff and now getting ready for this camping trip this weekend.
And actually, for the first time in a while, today he allowed me to make him breakfast, lunch and dinner. Not that I want to be his servant but this is one of the ways I like to please him and it was upsetting to me when he wasn't accepting it. Although, at some point today, he made himself a peanut butter sandwich and then put the empty jar back in the fridge... it is taking all I have to just ignore these things...
I am hoping he's starting to see things as they are now, and trying to let go of the past.
This weekend's campout should be interesting. We're going to be with all the other families from school. It's not unusual for each of us to do our own thing during this weekend but it's actually always bugged me (a lot) that we do that, not just here but in general. I wish for once he'd put his arm around me and bring me into his conversation.
It's a very family oriented weekend but people socialize with each other too. Since he is relying on me to plan and provide the food I would hope that he would eat it with us.
Me54, H53 M 23, T 25 S20, S18 BD: April 2024 Moved out: August 2024
Love means not giving up on someone even if they've given up on you.
"Being right is the booby prize of life." - Susan Page
