AT, I believe you heard the same exact thing the other day, very ironic. Your Peter Gabriel and Twilight Zone comment were funny, thanks for the chuckle, much needed!!! Denver, I printed your last post. Thank you!!!!!! It’s sitting on my coffee table all highlighted and written on with a bunch of chicken scratch. I am trying to grasp everything you said. One thing that stands out is “the timing.” I agree, this “might” be the right time. Another comment that resonated with me “Tread carefully, slowly and with deliberation. It’s got to be sincere.” I think I am fairly patient with things, getting the right words down is a different story so your post is EXTREMELY helpful. It’s interesting because I am somewhat articulate but when my W asks me the simplest question, I am like a deer in headlights!
I often think about my DB friends. There’s nothing I want more then all of you guys in a happy and fulfilling marriage, hopefully with our WAW’s! I know we are working hard.
Denver, 25, Starsky, Mr Bond, Arsene, Suppo, Bug, AT, Carnac, Accuray, etc…What an amazing group!!!!!! Talk about amazing people. I know I am far from my goal but I HIGHLY doubt I would be at this point without all of you. I am truly blessed to have all of you in my life. The conviction all of you have for marriage is absoulutly amazing. The time and effort you put into helping us out is profound. I hope all of you know how much it means to me. This is such deep sh!t were dealing with. So many people just throw in the towel and so many LBS’s just accept what’s happened to them. What makes us different, what makes us fighters? What makes us stand for our marriage? Is there a reason that we put our blood sweat and tears into this? I know why I do it. I love my W, the grass isn’t greener on the other side, my family is the most important thing in my life. My conviction is so strong.
Yes, I always second guess myself. I see my friends hooking up, they tell me to move on, they say I will find love again but I truly don’t think its my time yet. Theres a reason why I am suppose to be fighting for my W. I know my W is an amazing women and it takes a lot of courage for ALL OF US to overcome their infidelity, to truly forgive and still stand for our marriage. God Bless!
