"He said I'm not thinking about him or our daughter by asking him to leave. And I would just piss him off even more if I force him to. He said I don't deserve a second chance and he could never trust me again."
Next time he starts saying nonsense like this. Hold up your hand to stop him and look him DEAD in the eye and tell him that he will not talk to you like that ever again. That he is having an A so he has no right to say that you're not thinking about your D. And that if you talking to him about his affair gets him mad, then he is more than welcome to stay with his affair partner. And that your daughter will find out about him sooner or later and that if he wants to be mad at someone, to look at the mirror. That you have already apologized for the errors you've made in the marriage. However it is no excuse for his infidelity.
You have to be dead serious and confront him that way to show him that you're not going to be bossed around. Then start working on yourself, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Get yourself strong. You can do it.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.