I think that's what it's all about. Whether you choose to set boundaries and what they are is irrelevant. Each sitch is different and calls for different action/non-action. It's the intent behind what you do and the feeling that motivates what you do that matters.
I'm also dealing with controlling my anger on a daily basis. That doesn't mean I don't recognize it or deal with it. It just means I don't let it define me, my thoughts or my actions.
OTOH, I also realize that one way to deal with that anger is to come here and vent, let go of these thoughts that assail our minds. I realize that this is also necessary but it must just be that. A place to unload that garbage not a place to fuel the fire.
You are right CB, sometimes we just see what we want. I'm sure that AT has a lot of love for his W. I just think CV is pointing out how easy it is to cross that line and start acting out of frustration and anger instead of out of love. I do take in your point about the need to love and respect yourself though. We all have our own ways of dealing with these sitches and our own breaking points. In many ways, it's about how much you can take while doing what seems to be working.
Sorry for my rambles. I hope this makes sense.
This makes PERFECT sense fellow soldier-in-the-foxhole.
I'm looking forward to "doing what seems to be working"
I kid... as although I'm not necessarily seeing much progress in my R at this point... I'm seeing a LOT of progress in me (at least when I take the time to look for it).
Coming here to vent has been HUGE for me, especially recently. And the support of all you fine folks is... simply awesome.
And strangely enough... although this thread has taken a life of its own... I think it's been extremely helpful to a LOT of people... and hope it doesn't close any time soon!
But feel free to join us on my other thread... which is a bit more coherent and a little less catty...
