Sorry for the sting. I'll refrain from such direct comments if you'd like. I've always been one that preferred to know, regardless of how painful, because then at least I could choose to do something about it.
I know this thread is ending, but I wanted to respond to this point and didn't want to continue it on your new thread, so here goes.
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This 180 is probably my most vital one going forward... and I find it IMPOSSIBLE to figure out how to work on this 180 while being "dark"...
But don't you see??? When you're dark is the PERFECT time to work on it! Think about rehearsing a part for a play. You don't rehearse on stage when the performance is live, you do it at home, alone, maybe in front of a mirror. You do it over and over until it becomes natural for you, so that when you finally are on stage (or have the opportunity with your W,) it will be automatic for you. Using a forum such as this gives you an opportunity to "recognize" it (most important first step) and then to respond in an appropriate way and "practice" by saying something like, "I really appreciate your advice, but I don't appreciate your disrespectful comments about my W. Please keep your comments germane to me and my actions, and off of my W's character."
If someone takes offense, you have to wonder at their need to trash someone they've never even met....
First off... DO NOT refrain from direct comments... DO NOT sugar coat it for me... I need to hear these things... I'm just a little over-emotional at times...
And I LOVE LOVE LOVE your comments about rehearsing... And I'm going to take those to heart and into action.
For the record, I don't feel that my W is being personally attacked on the boards... I realize that the comments are often a combination of projection, research, personal experience, and blind guesses... But you know what... I might be wrong about that... Maybe there have been some personal attacks.
And now... I'll be for vigilant in searching that out.
