This is helping me an awful lot as well. Like Rough, I'm going through these communication, validating issues and I guess, as you said, being a "fixer" makes it very difficult to validate.
All I want to do is help her get through, find a solution for her problems or situation. Heck my way to show her i understood her was probably to end her sentences the way I thought she would and go on to tell her what I thought about it.
Rough, we both have to learn to STFU and listen actively.
As you said this is also helpful in all other relationships.
I'm glad your phone convo went well and I'm sure your W has now got a lot to think about, as you do.
Good luck mate,
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
