I was asking so that we have all of the fact. The facts being what she said to him. Whether her words are truthful or not, was not the point. We know that she's at least being partially truthful. I don't believe that we really ever get the whole story. I don't necessarily think that it matters. There are a few reasons that an LBS might lie about the details... the whens, hows, or whats. Because they don't want to admit the true story even to themselves, they don't want to hurt the LBS, they want the details to remain hidden for fear that they might drive the LBS completely away... etc. For me it doesn't matter. But, if the conversation is had, what she says does matter. IMO.
I give AT's W credit for the truth that she did give him. She could have continued to deny the OM. She didn't. She was, at a minimum, truthful there. For me, although it hurt like a bastard, I did appreciate my W being honest with me about the fact that it happened.
It is information. And information is always useful.
Now, what to do with it?
Great question! And I am appreciative of the honesty my W showed here... despite the pain it's caused.
