3 years aftet D-Day and i finally registet

[Am I Too Late]

Have you tried Al-Anon?

It [censored] but she has to sort this one out on her own. I don't hear you allowing her to find her own bottom. I know how scary it is, but the marriage is doomed otherwise. She's in a foggy fog if she is MLC AND Alcoholic. She's doing what alkies do, they drink to forget and escape. Let her.

No such thing as a Happy Addict. She will reach the truth faster if you get outta her way.You

I only speak from experience. In my marriage, I'm seeing how sick I was. My husband and I were equally crazy and his pulling away has been a gift because I'm able to see clearly what's His craziness and what's My craziness.

Stay on your side of the street. Clean it up. Let her create a relationship with your son. If she's drinking, do you really want her around your son anyway??? Protect him from her disease.

The truth always comes out at some point. Finds its way to the surface. Let Go and Let God. You are stronger than you think!! You can do this one step at a time.

Heather

God Bless you Heather.

I have not really ever lectured her or stopped her from going out when i suspected she was drinking. I was naive the 1st 9 months and actually believed she was just visiting her old high school friends.

Yes, it bothers me to see what her alcoholic tendencies and the corresponding Stinking Thinking have done.

O am only answering because i recognize the disease very well. I am not excusing or accepting it.

I am trying to Let Go, as is being constantly advised to me.

Now, today i found out that my friends wife did pass away from her alcohol and other substance overdose.

I did text my wife, just to let her know she died. Her BAC was over .40. So sad, as she too was a very nice and caring person and friend of mine.

My wife is despondent about it and stated last Saturday that this could have been her, with the exception of the drug part. She plans on attending the Wake, even though she said she will feel very uncomfortable there, with all her former AA friends in attendance.

I did not text her further after she asked where the wake would be, which is the same place her mom was waked at.

Me: Detach. Detach. Detach. Work on myself and work on getting some work or job to look forward to. Don't get svcked on with her sometimes mixed messages. Don't let her trigger me backwards again.

Ed