It's been a long time, and I see that a lot has happened. Your W's words match my H's words of about a year ago: "we don't talk in the car," "don't want to get your hopes up," "I felt validated by OW." Same stuff. So listen but don't take everything she says literally.
She's basically trying to find an excuse to keep OM, but it all comes down to her overcoming her negative thoughts about your M, her fear, and her past trauma. Remember, it's not all you. It seems she has a pretty rough past, which is definitely impacting how she sees your R.
I would keep doing the same but don't appear desperate. Remember: GAL (great job on the run, by the way) and continue being nice and upbeat as much as you can.
Don't pressure her into telling you what the IC said. If she comes to you, listen--don't judge or give advice.
Patience is key. I still see hope for you guys.
Oh, and now I see how this progress is also bringing you confusion...Hang in there.
