Still together but trying to save this

[Denver_2010]

Fu - I read through your sitch the other day and just didn't have the time to reply in full.

It will get better with time. You really have just started with this. Be patient. It is true that time heals all.

Listen man, everyone here understands what you are going through. I went through it, and many are in the middle of going through it. So, you are not alone.

I have some questions for you. Some of them you may have answered in previous posts, so I apologize if I am being redundant.

1) Curious about what you do for a living. May not be something you want to answer though.

2) Do you know the status of the OM and your W? If so, what is it?

3) have you actually read divorce remedy? Specifically the chapters about the Last Resort Technique and Infidelity?

4) Are you on medication for your anxiety? If not, have you looked into it? And if so, do you think that the medication working?

One thing that I see that is conspicuously missing from all of the posts on your thread is the question:

5) What did you do to contribute to what is happening to your M?

I realize that your anxiety issues were a big part... but what about them? How how has your anxiety caused you to behave?

It is usually the symptoms of mental health issues that cause problems, not the diagnosis of mental health issues... make sense?

I ask that question because I don't see what 180's your are doing.

I'm sure that I have more to add, but let's get the answers to these questions first.