So here's my story part 2

[Denver_2010]

Hey Tumbling, thanks for chiming in and the support.
As far as Validation goes, what she means us positive attention, compliments and what not. Throughout our R, I haven't been the best, nor the worst. Ironically enough, a few months before the bomb and the existence of OM u was actually better at offering her that type of compliment telling her how beautiful she looked and all the good stuff. She doesn't recall any of it. Heck, earlier today. She totally forgot about a 50 Shades of Grey kind of encounter we had. As far as frequency of the "fix" from OM, it's probably at least daily via text or app games. A few weeks ago, she commented that my compliment is a "good" whereas his is more of a "great". Is it true? Maybe, but I'd lay money more on the fact that it has more of an impact due to the newness factor. Regardless, it means more to her. How do I compete with that? Do I compete with that?
Yes, she asked me for help ion finding her a C, I know a fair share of them. I found some that I obviously don't know.

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Today's events thus far. Woke up several times because of dreams longing for her, simply holding / snuggling with her. Eventually we all woke up and lounged around. We were "normal" with each other, like things were before. She admitted she wanted to be held but fought of the temptation. The whole if we could erase the past 3 months scenario, but can't. We stayed away from any serious R talks, including me not saying something (180 for me), and sokind of agreed on a business like approach regarding today. I did try to offer her a compliment about how beautiful she which was received rather indifferent from her. Temperature checking maybe, as she did shortly later on make a comment about how I looked good, especially because I was wearing one of her favorite shirts. Anyways, we all made a drive to IKEA. She made a comment about how we actually talked the majority of the way there (one of her complaints). So were being friendly and a little flirty with each other.
I'm trying to match her, without over doing it / pressuring her. The next few days I have to work, but will be off Third and Fri as they all have Fall Break. So ill have several days with her and the kids. Suggestions as to not over do things? I felt like I backslid a little and had to cover up / fake it. I think she didn't realize too much based on the overall good day we had. I think W phrased it along the lines of "its nice were getting along, I like it, even though its not reality, don't want to get your hopes up so as to not get hurt".
As usual, any thoughts on everything are welcomed.

Honestly? My thought is... just keep doing what you are doing. I think that you are making small inroads. Remember...

Consistent changes + sufficient time = changes she can trust

Right now, she does not trust what is happening between the two of you... thus, why you need to keep doing what you are doing.