We start mediation next Friday. I'm trying to avoid communication with her, but she keeps wanting us to be friends.
Just tell her "I have no interested in being "friends" with a person who abandons a marriage and a family for another man... "friends" don't do that to one another.
Tell her you two won't be friends, you are co-parents only. She cannot have her cake and eat it too.
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I found out she introduced the OM to the kids. I went and demanded she never do that again. I threatened to go for full custody if she tried it again and I am contacting my lawyer to see what my course of action will be.
Excellent.. keep the pressure on her to think about the consequences of her choices.
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She obviously is not interested in R. Just hanging in there until we can get a separation agreement.
Until she realizes she's LOSING something she's not going to worry about it.
Make it clear to her you aren't going to be a support system, friend, or "go to guy" anymore.
She is either with you 100%, or him 100%.
This forces her to make a difficult, rather than an easy decision.
I am not suggesting you turn her into the enemy, but she has to realize you two wont' have the same relationship you do now... That will be out the window if she chooses divorce.
This must appear as a dilemma for her. You or him. She will work every angle she can to keep BOTH of you on a string. THAT is the line you must cut.
Cut her out, so she knows it's ONLY him now. This WILL make her THINK.
