Busting, thanks.
I asked a similar question of Wendylon yesterday because I wonder if we focus more on negative things due to the situation and sometimes it's just the way they are.

So now I pose it to myself. Is this normal H behaviour?

Yes, even before he worked, I can remember a time when I was ill and he didn't call that night. And I went ballistic in an email that he didn't care about me. He replied that he did and that he had thought of me but hadn't contacted me.

Yes, even before BD and he was working away he wouldn't text me every day.

Bit calmer now and recognise I have to work on that insecure trigger some more.

Thanks again

ME41 H39
T12 M9
Ilybinilwy 10/2010
H moves out 11/2010
H moves in 09/2011 out 11/2011
Try to fix it alone, give up 07/2012
Tumbling to file 02/01/2013 :-)
"Strong on the inside, soft on the outside"