When he got home, he texted her after reading the letter and said that he wished she wasnt in so much pain and that he wished he could take all her pain away...he also said that he hoped that some of the letter was a hyperbole and she responded by telling him that it was true. He said that that in time, the pain will dissiapate.
I was sad over this, seeing that even his daughter reaching out and trying to get him think straight left him only validating to her and himself this is the right thing for our family. Is this just his way of validating what he is doing and had done?
You really need to read DR and try to read more of the threads here. This is totally normal behavior for a WAS. They think their behavior is justified and nothing anyone can say to them will change their opinion on this. So what do you do? You never confront them about it. They have to resolve this on their own.
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He NEVER made eye contact with me. He said "hey" and got the mail for him but never even looked at me. I mean, I am still his wife and I am carrying his baby...maybe just a "how are you feeling?" would have been nice...I guess that just expecting too much...
Yeah, that's pretty normal too. My W started that a couple of months ago and is just now started to make eye contact again. DR and most people here will tell you to drop your expectations. I agree, it's a good idea.
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I wanted so badly to text him this morning and ask if he really thought this was best for all of us...but we are in NC mode and honestly, I think his answer would have ruined my day.
Don't initiate any R talks. You need to start acting "as if" everything is fine and normal even if it's not. Reevaluate your NC though, it doesn't sound like it's helping things.
